Life is a journey. ( As if you didn't know). A gift. And I don't suggest living it in the past. But to understand where you are in life, you must understand your past, where you came from and why you are the way you are. You must uncover every stone to find the fossils that haunt you and keep you from reaching your full potential. If you want to change your future, you must learn from your past. You have heard that history repeats itself. This statement is very true. Don't live with the labels placed on you by yourself or by others. Change the labels you don't want, by living differently. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from your parent's mistakes. Contrary to popular belief, it is okay for you to find mistakes in your parents. That doesn't mean that you don't love them. It only means you understand that your parents are human and that everyone makes mistakes.
If you are going to change your life you must discover the scars that limit you. When raising your children, you don't want to repeat the wrongs that you were taught. If you were beaten as a child, do you do the same to your children? If your mother was battered, do you hand your husband the whip or do you raise your fist to your wife? It's not okay to be a bad parent because your parents failed. It's not okay to be a bad wife or a bad husband because you had a bad life. If you are to reach your fullest potential you must accept responsibility for your reactions to your past. You can either repeat history or change the future. Remember, you may only have three minutes left. But then again, you made have three decades.